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The interview went poorly… you were tongue tied and overwhelmed.
The audition was a disaster. It just wasn’t what you’re capable of doing.
So… now what?
First, everyone is entitled to feeling disappointment. But, for only a day max, preferably limited to a one hour pity party.
know it’s time to get over it. We do that by examining the experience
to see where we erred or could have done better. We get brutally honest
and admit aloud what our ego is refusing to admit. We could have
prepared better, warmed up more, focused more, known the audience
better, prepared our body to coordinate with our mind by exercising and
eating right long before.
Third, we may have to face the reality that we just weren’t right for the situation and find a situation that’s better for us.
gain perspective. Yes, it was disappointing but count your blessings.
Counting miseries can be habit forming. So can counting blessings.
prepare for the next event. The old saying bears merit: when you fall
off the horse, hurry up and get back on. Life is too short. Get on with
it. Easy to say, but important to do. Just do it.
with an example of a really bad day and what somebody did about it. Keep
in mind that just because we have a right to be disappointed doesn’t
mean we should.
Charlie Plumb was a naval aviator in the Vietnam
War. He was shot down and spent 7 years as a POW in Hanoi. He was
beaten, tortured, starved, riddled with diseases and finally made it
home only to find his sweetheart had divorced him. She had loved him but
the word from the Department of Defense to her was that he’d been
killed in action. She held out hope for seven years but finally
concluded he must be dead. She remarried — just six months before he got
home. People told Charlie he had a right to be disappointed. He
relished that right and began accumulating reasons justifying his
misery. One day he realized he DID have a right to be miserable, but,
when he had dysentery he also had a right to have diarrhea… but who
would want that? So, in one immediate moment he said, “That’s enough.
Time to move on.” And he did. It’s like forgiveness – we may have a
right to hate someone for what they did, but when we forgive them the
gall of bitterness is dissolved and we stop hurting ourselves.
if you’ve had a bad day, my condolences, but know you’re human, we all
have those days and let’s get on with making the life that will bring us
joy and happiness to others.
About Mark Stoddard
Mark Stoddard is a business leader, professor, marketer and consultant
who has been helping singers get jobs for more than 20 years. On the
singing front he staged more than 100 professional shows aboard cruise
ships that employed classical singers, pianists and strings. He's also
coached singers on how to sell their CDs and other products, use the
social media and how to negotiate contracts. He's been the CEO,
President or Owner of the nation's largest financial newsletter printing
company, a residential and home study education company teaching
finance and business, an international cruise and tour operation, and a
non-profit fundraising organization. As an author he's written 17 books
on business and marketing (including one just for singers—Marketing Singers)
as well as a full-length musical, several plays and a book of short
stories and poems. His classes at the Classical Singer Convention are
always rated with the highest ratings.