"A lot of people will draft a text at the spur of the moment, feeling hot and bothered about something, and off goes the text message" says Ken Altshuler, president of the American Academy of Matrimonial Lawyers. "But it's the same kind of written documentation that lawyers just love to go to town on."
In a recent survey, more than 80 percent of the academy's members reported an increased use of text messages in court. And Altshuler says once your words are in print, they're hard to disown.
"I have one husband, frankly, who said in a text message, 'I'm so angry at you right now I could kill you,'" Altshuler says. "He got charged with criminal threatening."
Tips For Keeping Your Texts Out Of Court
- Don't write (text, Facebook, email, etc.) anything you wouldn't want a judge to see.
- If you're receiving inappropriate messages from your spouse, don't respond inappropriately, because a judge will see that.
- Don't send messages that clearly set your spouse up for an inappropriate or angry response.
- If you're worked up and want to send your spouse a message, take time to calm down before putting anything in writing.
"Of course, you know, the person in that case said he was on a business trip in Denver," Altshuler says.
In one custody battle, Altshuler says a text message single-handedly won the case. The mother claimed the father's drinking problem compromised his parenting. But the father was an excellent witness. He said he hadn't had a drink in a year, and even his substance abuse counselor vouched for him. It was a classic case of "he said, she said," until Altshuler's client displayed a recent text from her husband asking her to pick up beer on the way home.
"He sat there and stared at the text message for about 2.5 minutes," says Altshuler. "He had no answer. Case is over."
A Treasure Trove Of Information
Stephen Ward is a private investigator with Pinkerton Consulting and Investigations. He says as technology improves, so does the potential for texts as evidence.
It's a treasure trove of information, he says. But getting texts into court as evidence can be tricky, especially if it's a spouse's texts you're after. If you've stolen a password to access them, they can be ruled inadmissible. And if they're on a company phone?
"You could be looking at things that are trade secrets, that you're not entitled to see," Ward says. "It's actually corporate property, it's not yours, and you've done something completely illegal."
Ward says it's always best to let a lawyer subpoena a spouse's texts.
But even using messages from your own phone isn't always a sure thing. Lee Knott tried to submit texts from her ex-husband during a custody battle. She used an app to send them to her email account.
"And so each text message, even if it was only four words long, ended up taking a page," she says. "So that's hundreds of pages."
Knott says she got the sense the judge, in a rural part of Washington state, was overwhelmed and wary.
"The judge said that he didn't understand the technology, and that he could not be certain that it wasn't able to be tampered with," she says.
In fact, some states only accept electronic evidence if it's been gathered by a professional.
Lawyers love getting their hands on these smoking gun texts. But for their own clients, they have one overriding piece of advice: Don't write anything you don't want a judge to read.
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