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Thursday, November 22, 2012

Eye contact is...



Direct: You look at individuals in their eyes.

Sustained: You look at them long enough for them to feel you care and are talking to them (a half second to a second is fine).

Deliberate: You make them feel you are talking with them.

Distributed: You try to cover everyone, or at least each section of the audience (if audience is large).

28 comments:

yoandra taboada said...

personally i would say i have eye contact anxiety, i've improved. Mostly its keeping eye contact for longer period but it makes me really nervous and self consicous.
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victor Garcia said...

eye contact is impotant. its also a key role to being serious or not nervous to speak up. personally its strange to me not to have eye contact with people

Anonymous said...

It’s true, eye contact is very important. When I am listening to a speech and the speaker makes eye contact with me, I know that the person cares that I am listening and because of that I tend to listen harder because I know that it will mean a lot to the speaker.
Julia Miller
HN 4041

Maura Goldberg COM102-6002 said...

Eye contact is so important in public speaking & so very important in interviews & one and one conversations. The easiest thing for me to do in public speaking is look at the audience's eyebrows; to them it appears you are making eye contact but don't really have to. When people don't look me in the eye I don't trust them.

Iuliia Decker BC6003 said...

Eye contact is very important in conversations. And it helps not only a speaker but also a recipient. Because than you pay more attention and you will surely remember more details from the speech.

Iuliia Decker BC6003 said...

And reply to yoandra taboada. I think if you do not feel comfortable using an eye contact method when you are making your speech, start from having an eye contact with a speaker when you are a listener. If you are a good listener it will help you to become a good speaker

Neptali Cabrera said...

Eye contact is essential in performing speeches in front of other. It say a lot like you are confident and know what you are talking about. Also lets you audience know you care about the topic you talking about.
Neptali Cabrera Com 101

Jessica Johnson said...

Eye contact is important when communicating. For the most part, if someone is reiterating your eye contact then you know they are listening. It is hard for me to understand people if they are not giving eye contact. Lack of it makes me typically perceive the person as having a lack of confidence.
Jessica Johnson COM 101 4041

Maura Goldberg COM101 6002 said...

I look at people's eyebrows so I don't have to feel awkward staring at their eyes, no one can tell!

Anonymous said...

I personally have great eye contact. EXCEPT when I am giving speeches in this class, I don't know what it is but I can't stare at blank faces and talk. lol. But I hopefully will be able to soon, because it is very important, because when someone is talking to a group of people and staring at note cards, or at the floor its very distracting and not sincere.

Iuliia Decker / BC 6003 said...

But it the same time you do not need to have to much eye contact... I mean do not look at one person for a long time, you can make her/him feel so uncomfortable ))

Leslie Gomez- COM 4041 said...

Good tips on learning how to effectively grasp an audiences attention. Although I still can't learn how to do sustained, I feel like i'm creeping the person out...

Aleksandra Drapacz said...

Public speaking is as much as science as art, however there are some fundamentals that once mastered can help anyone become a good if not a great public speaker.

Anonymous said...

It just shows respect when you look at someone in their eyes. Also with trying to look at everyone in your audience, that was difficult at first with me but now each speech gets easier & easier to look around the room.


-Mireika Edwards COM101

Anonymous said...

Eye contact is more important than most people think. Almost everyone has heard the saying, “Eyes are the windows to the soul.” When you look into someone’s eyes you can usually tell how they are feeling emotionally. I know when I talk to someone who knows me very well and I tell them everything is fine, when it’s actually not, they can tell that I am upset by just looking into my eyes.

Chantel Toia
Com 101 - 4041

Nick Hoffman said...

Definitely one of the most important qualities a public speaker can have, especially if they are trying to sell you something. Take a salesmen for example. It is their job to make you feel important by directly making eye contact with you, and in most cases, this will ultimately improve the sale.

Luisa Galdamez Com 101 said...

... Very important!!! this is something I practice daily, helps people remember me more :)

Anonymous said...

Julie Fabre BC
I think eye contact is crucial especially in a speech. For me it keeps me focussed and more relaxed when I look at someone and they are giving me feedback or reacting to what I'm talking about.

Anonymous said...

I understand the importance of eye contact. I, personally feel that my audience are interested in what I am saying. Sometimes with all the stares, I can't help but feel more nervous than before. My anxiety is something I still need work on and my eye contact definitely needs some improvement.

Dulcenea Leae
HN 4041

Alexander Medina Com101 4041 said...

Eye contact is such an important thing and it doesn't matter where your at. One thing I've always been told is to maintain eye contact in a job interview. Which is why I think I've done very well in all interviews I've had.

Anonymous said...

eye contact depends greatly upon the size of the audience. it is easy to maintain eye contact when talking to a small group of 2 or 3 but add another 10 to 20 and the anxiety rises.

Shirley Hartman HUM/114

Anonymous said...

I prefer for someone to use eye contact with me while they are speaking. I even make my children look at me when we are speaking to each other. I will tell them to look at me cause I can't hear them correctly, if we do not have eye contact.
Mary Renteria
HUM/114

Christina Ortega COM101-4049 said...

This was so very helpful to me! and its so very true. as i watched some other students give their speeches.... the ones whom avoided eye contact made me feel as though what they were saying was either made up or simply not that important. the ones who took the sec. to make eye contact grabbed my attention even more and spiked my interest!!

Berenice said...

i hate eye contact. that's me nervous and i hate when people starring at me and when i read this and its makes me comfortable and understand better.

Anonymous said...

Eye contact is essential not only with public speaking, but in every day conversation. As trivial as it sounds people take notice when a person refuses to look them in the eye while conversing. Personally, I interpret it as the person is either lying or has little confidence in what they are saying.

Michael UOP HUM114

Anonymous said...

Eye contact is important. You want the audience to feel a part of the speech. I try my best to distrubute it in my speeches.

Erin Penman
Sec. 4080

Anonymous said...

Colleen RT

I understand how important eye contact is and the need to feel connected. Being that I'm shy I have difficulty distributing eye contact but I'm trying.

Leticia H RT said...

My dad always taught us to make eye contact with the person we are speaking to.