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Tuesday, April 29, 2014


We frame the events and messages in our lives based on our own experiences, the events of at the time and our own perceptions of truth. We are predisposed though upbringing, our social or economic status, who we hang around with, what we watch or listen to and our education level or field. These reflect, reinforce and form our bias, prejudice, what stereotypes we use and our framing of the world around us.

Re-framing is a part of everyday life, conversation, communication and events. We experience framing in jokes, advertising, entertainment, discussion and argumentation.

Look at what provokes strong emotional responses. Humor, politics, religion, passion, conflicts and context influence our responses and the impact of these responses.

Human beings make themselves happy, confident, sad, anxious, or even miserable over our interpretation of events, rather than the events themselves. We choose to see the world and interpret what happens to us or around us through out own prism.

We set up limiting frames that keep us from being open to change, opposing views or compromise. That said, most people either are not aware of or will not admit their own limiting frames, but are quick to see it in others and be judgmental. How often have you thought "how could he think that way" or "why doesn't he just....."

It is difficult, but we should open our own windows, raise the bar and attempt to be open to seeing the ways we can help ourselves by understanding the other guy, considering alternative solutions and being open to other ways of doing or interpreting things.

Try to spot the limiting frames you put on your situations or ideas, and why you get habitually stuck or cemented in your own view or perception.

When confronted with problems, opportunities and other situations, get into the habit of looking for alternatives frames to the most obvious ones. Ask yourself "what else could this mean?" and "Where else could this be useful?"

How do we use frames for problem solving?


1. Meaning: "What else could this mean?" "What alternative causes could there be?"

2. Context: "Where else could this be useful?" "Could this be happening because of situation?"

3. Learning: "What can I learn from this? "How can I use this new information?

4. Humor: "Is there a funny side to this?" "How would (fill in comedians name) tell this story?"

5. Solution: "What comes next?" "What would I do if this were not an obstacle?"

6.Silver Lining: "What opportunities does this problem offer?" "Make lemons into lemonade."

7. Points of View: "How does this look to other people involved?" "How can I look at this differently?"

8. Heroes: "How would (fill in the bank) look at this?" "Has this been soled before by someone else?"

9. Acquiescence: "Would it hurt if we just left this alone?" "Does this really harm anyone or anything?"

When you are in the middle of a crisis, find yourself growing bitter or angry, feel "put upon", feel resentful or are just burnt out, asking the questions above and thinking in terms of re-framing can really save you from making mistakes and unintentionally harming yourself or others.

In part from the website: Lateral Action: the creative Pathfinder.


Ann Bloom said...

There certainly is a lot to be said of being an open minded individual, and being able to at listen effectively to another. The ability to use and learn from situations that affect those in our lives or out, and not just relate to or compare to, or judge by in order to one-up another, is an easy way to begin a sound foundation to being open minded.
What one sees as yellow and I may see as orange, are the same color just seen from different perspectives. There Really is no need for arguments at all, when rational discussion; facts, myths, ideas, hypothesis, and tried and trued experiences, are much more effective.
We as a global whole, I feel, are walking a finite line between abyssal self-righteousness, and/or cultural abhorrence of anyway but my way is wrong, mentalities that there may be no win win scenarios in our future. Just wars that cannot be won.

Bonnie Dolbee said...

I like this little bit of psychology in our daily lives. We are all guilty of overreacting to a situation or comment and if we just stopped for a second to review these questions, we just may have a different response.
Thanks for sharing this.

Darren Eames said...

I have tried to read as much as I can on re-framing and state change, I believe it is the way to happiness. I understand that you can't be happy all the time, but being pissed because you were cut off in traffic or forgot your coffee on the counter and let it ruin your day will be a thing of the past.

Trevino01 said...

This is a great thing that everybody should take into consideration. This will make you happier as a man/woman in the long run. It takes away a huge amount of stress. Giving everything a chance makes you see the world from a different point of view and will only make you smarter because you have the luxury of seeing all sides.

Leslie Gomez- 4041 said...

I just recently began to really, really seriously interpret the idea of allowing our minds to accept and listen to so much more then just what we are told. We are all shaped by our personal experiences because of where we live, where we came from, and the things we see and do everyday. In a way, we are all born in the place we are out of pure chance, and this affects the way we view the world. Our beliefs, opinions, religion and ideas are only an individual interpretation of what we have experienced. All of these questions on the blog are great to ask yourself and the people around you.

Maura Goldberg 6002 said...

I've tried to take situations and look for the good side of them...otherwise you'll be angry & cynical & lose your mind. I grew up thinking I was a democrat because that's how my parents voted - as it turns out I'm more republican. I re-framed my political view point. Usually if you wait a minute, an hour, a day, a week you can see things in a different perspective and what's seems like a crisis can usually get worked through.

Anonymous said...

I think having the ability to re-frame things, ideas and problems is very helpful. It can open up a whole new world for those that are close minded. I will use this information to help me in my own life, personally and professionally.

Mary Renteria/HUM/114

Anonymous said...

I never thought about life as a frame until I read this blog. I have in the past framed my life around my family and when I was married. While married the frame could not be broken, it had to be his way or no way. I did not have the desire to reframe until I was divorced. After a year, and after reading this blog, I have reframed my life. I no longer ask "why me?" I am conducting my life to help my self and others I care about. Going to school is the biggest step. I really enjoyed this blog and keep a copy at my desk. It is a learning curve. Thank you.

A. Falconetti
Comm101 HN 4049

Anonymous said...

It's funny because as I was readying this blog I recalled so many events that I could have changed if I just took a moment to ask myself those questions. We are just so quick to make assumtions about people or we overreact in certain situations. All we have to do is just take a step back from the problem and really thought it out. I really want to try and re-frame my way of thought because I feel I would be a better person for it.

Gabriela Silva
COM101 - 4049 SPRING 2012 (4049)

shung lee said...

I think having the ability to re-frame ourselves, thinkings, persepcetives are very essential part of our lives. It can helps us stay peaceful and help others more than we know.

Berenice said...

i agree with shung lee say.

Anonymous said...

These questions are a great framework for beginning to look at how to open one's mind. Once one sees how much better life is looking at life this way it will become second nature. They will already posses this way of looking at things and need only to resort to these questions when extremely difficult situation rears it's head.
-Nicole H.